How To Bang on The First Date

The problem is that we often approach it in the wrong fashion. If you approach it properly, nearly any first date will result in bangin’ out before the night is done, but if you play your cards wrong even the most DTF chick in the world will send your sorry ass packin’. So enough talk about being sent home to beat the meat, let’s stay positive here. Banging on the first date is possible, and if nearly anyone can do it. That’s right, even you can do it. 

One of the biggest obstacles to get over isn’t the girl, it’s you. Many people assume that the girl won’t be DTF on the first date because she’s too “classy”, or she has too much self-respect, which is a common misconception. Many “classy” girls who have self-respect are just like you, they want to get it in. Maybe the date went alright, but they don’t see it going anywhere in the future. That doesn’t mean that they don’t want any action that night. Think about it this way, after a so-so date, would you rather have sex or go home and watch repeats of sex and the city while eating Ben and Jerry’s ice cream? If you answered the latter of the two, then, well, this is the wrong article for you. If you answered the former of the two, then you are like most men and women out there.

Get the notion that they don’t want to have sex on the first date out of your mind. There might be clear signals that things are going really badly throughout the first date, so sometimes it isn’t always possible to seal the deal. But we aren’t going to focus on that, we’re going to focus on staying positive. Positivity and confidence often go hand in hand, and women can sense confidence like it’s their j-o-b. Throughout the date, remind yourself that you are the fucking man. Don’t get too hyped up though, you need to stay calm and cool. Think of something that makes you relaxed if you find yourself getting too carried away. Nervousness can be your worst enemy, too. It’s important to keep your cool because just like confidence, women can sense nervousness. So be optimistic, confident, calm, and avoid nervousness at all costs. Got it? That’s the mindset that you want to have during the first date if your objective is to bang. Hell, that’s a good mindset to always have.

Obviously choosing the proper venue for your first date will play a large role in determining whether or not you will score, but don’t assume that you have to have the perfect place for your date to get in bed afterwards. Sometimes the worst places for a first date have the best outcomes, and we’ll talk about that later. You’ll want to have a venue that isn’t too crowded, but doesn’t necessarily have the two of you alone together. Some women feel uncomfortable being alone with the man on the first date, so that’s generally a no-no. There comes a time and a place to be alone, but that’s only after you’ve made her feel comfortable with you. For example, you can start off a date at a fairly public place like a small coffee shop; while a bit cliché, it works. It’s not too crowded, and allows you two to talk and build up rapport. This will allow her to become comfortable with you, and if she does become comfortable, you can take things to the next level and move the date to another venue. A bar for a few drinks is always a good next step, it allows you to get to know each other a bit better, and a little bit of alcohol always helps. It will reduce the nervousness of both parties, and typically make things more fun. Now don’t get shitfaced, but keep your wits about you.

From here, the goal is to get the two of you alone with one another. There are dozens of different ways to do so, but you might need to use your improve skills for this. It needs to match the situation. For example, if you were just talking about music, you could invite her over to check out your music collection or to listen to some tunes. Or maybe she’s an artist; tell her you’ve got a painting at your pad that you’d love an expert opinion on. Use your imagination. The best reason to be alone will be one that’s relevant to your situation, so only you can decide what the best reason is. If you really can’t think of anything, you could even resort to the classic “come over for some drinks or coffee” line, but I have faith in you; you can think of a better line than that.

Once you get her back to your pad (or hers!), you’re going to need to make sure that she’s comfortable. Chances are she’s had a few drinks, so her guard is going to be up, making sure that you’re not Patrick Bateman waiting to chop her up with an Axe. (A tip to the ladies out there; if he puts on Huey Lewis and the News, run!) Get your drinks ready, show her your art, do whatever you said you were going to do, and then get comfortable. Sit down on the couch and throw on the television and have a few drinks. Make sure you don’t rush it though. Many women take time to warm up, so you don’t want to get too intimate too quickly. Chances are she doesn’t have a curfew, so there’s no need to rush. Just don’t let the night pass you by. Always be slowly escalating things, hold her hand, put your arm around her, stroke her hair, you know where this is going. If you’ve made it this far, chances are you are going to bang on the first date! If not, address where you went wrong and try not to make the same mistake next time.