Best Ways To Approach Women You're Interested InJuly 17, 2012 - 7:02 am |
Best way to overcome you’re fear of approaching random chicks, without alcohol. It’s tough, man up.
Approaching a woman or lady you have never met before for the purpose of establishing a relationship is perhaps your major challenge when it comes to relationship matters. You are not alone though; many men literally fear approaching strange women.
1. The first top way to approach a strange woman is to address any fear you may have. The fear usually emanates from the fact that you do not know how she will respond to you or perhaps you fear being embarrassed.
2. Apart from fear of embrassement, you are likely to have fear of rejection. Because you may have planted the thought of rejection in your subconscious mind, it is only important to know that no matter how strange the woman is, she will not put you off before giving you an ear.
3. Being kind to any stranger will makes the stranger develop interest in you. This also applies to a strange woman you are interested in. There are so many ways through which you can show kindness. You only need to look around and be creative.
4. Depending on where you meet, consider offering her a drink. This is one of the top ways to approach a woman you are interested in when in a hotel.
5. Gaining the courage and going to sit near a strange woman you are interested in can work wonders. This will however depend on location and general situation around.
6. One thing is clear; no matter how strange a woman can be, she will make do with some conversation. This should eliminate any fear of embarrassment or rejection you may have. In any case, you will not be saying what it is you want to say from the first instance. You will initially need to establish a formal general conversation, let her open up before putting across your main agenda. However, putting across your agenda may not necessarily be on the same day, that can wait for another day once you have established friendship and you are convinced that indeed she is one you will be comfortable with.
7. How you present yourself matters a great deal. This is one area where most men do not pay any attention. No woman will feel comfortable talking to an un-groomed man. Ensure that your hair is well tendered in addition to dressing appropriately. You simply need to be smart and presentable. To approach and win over a strange woman, you need to be presentable all the time.
8. Establishing communication with a strange woman you are interested in is a top of attaining your goal. It is only through communication that you will be able to start a conversation.
9. Greeting while maintaining a safe distance should be your first act. It is important that you maintain a reasonable distance between you and her so that she does not feel you are "intruding'. Note that women generally have a "protective circle" around them and getting into this circle makes them feel very uncomfortable. Note also that extending your hand for a hand shake is necessary when greeting her. No matter how strange a woman can be, she will not want to embarrass you by not extending her hand for a greeting.
10. How firm your hand is during your handshake will tell the strange woman a lot about you. Women generally expect men to greet them firmly. Note that a strange woman will generally not greet you with a firm grip, so how long you hold your hand is also critical. Your grip should neither be short nor long. It is important to point out that she will think of your hand grip even after you have pulled away your hand. Because she is a woman you are interested in, your grip should be firm but "kind" to her hands, maintaining the grip for some five seconds.