10 Ways To Get A Second Date

You have landed the perfect date. You have been dreaming of going out with this person for awhile now and the date is set. You want the date to go well to make sure that a second date occurs. If you do not want the first date to be the last, here are a few things that you can do to make sure that you get a second date.

1.       First Impressions: make sure that you make a good first impression. Make sure you are on time to pick her up. Being late is not acceptable when you are trying to make a good first impression. In addition, it is these small courtesies that will be noticed to make the evening much more pleasant. Being polite to your servers and opening car doors are just a few things that you can do to start the date off right.

2.       Appropriate Dress: Make sure that you dress appropriately for the date. This will largely depend on where you are going. Even if you are just headed to the bowling alley or a low maintenance bar, make sure that you look nice. Of course, it is also important to make sure that you are showered and shaved.

3.       Creating Memories: there are several things that you can do to create a great first date memory. One way is to have a special song playing in the car especially for the date. This can help relax your date and give her something to remember you by.

4.       Listening: This cannot be stressed enough. You want to make sure that you listen to your date and what she is saying. Keep up your part of the conversation, but do not ignore what she has to say and do not start bragging about yourself and things that you have accomplished. The conversation should be casual.

5.       Compliments: a simple compliment can go a long way. Compliments can be something as simple as telling her that you like her dress. You could even compliment what she has chosen to eat or some aspect of her personality, such as her sense of humor. Women love compliments and this will help her feel more confident.

6.       Focus: once the initial jitters are over from the beginning of the date it is easy to let your mind wander. Perhaps at dinner you start checking out other women or simply zone out. If you are looking to have a second date with this girl you need to stay focused on her, give her your full attention. Remember, she agreed to spend this time with you and deserves your respect.

7.       Avoid Controversial Topics: a first date is never the place to discuss things such as religion and politics. Make sure you keep the conversation simple and light. Discuss common interests and avoid the heavier topics. There will be time enough to find out her political views on the third, fourth, or tenth date.

8.       Keep it Fun: dating is supposed to be fun. Unfortunately, many people make to much out of it and forget to have a good time. Keep the conversation pleasant and fun. Most of all, if you start to feel negative about something, turn the conversation around and make a joke. Try to make the evening memorable for you both.

9.       Slow Down: we live in a very fast paced world. Everyone is in touch through social networks, texting, tweeting, and all of the latest technology. When dating we need to remember to slow down. If you really like a girl keep your hands off of her during the first date. Nothing will turn a girl off more than a guy who puts his hands all over her during a first date. A simple good night kiss is a great way to end a date if you feel that she would like it. If not, back off and wait for the next date.

10.    Give her a Call: if the first date goes well and you want to see her again, make sure you call within a few days. If you wait to long she may think that you don’t like her. If you call too soon, she may think you are a creep. Typically, calling a couple of days after the date is acceptable.

There are a lot of things that can go wrong on a first date. However, by taking things slow and remembering to laugh, a date can go from bad to great in a matter of moments. Dating is all about attitude and if you go in with a positive attitude chances are you are going to land that second date.

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